What's It Wednesday #73
Back in February I made a quiet announcement at the end of the post. That week, we welcomed home a three year old princess. Next week we go to court for the finalization of our adoption. This is the day my family has been waiting for.
My husband and I met in Victoria, British Columbia and from the time we met we said we wanted children. As fate would have it, I was not able to get pregnant. I went to a infertility specialist and was mortified when I found out that the IVF procedure was not guaranteed. I decided against the procedure knowing that I could not handle it if the procedure did not work. Needless to say I was devastated. I cried for days.
One day my husband said "Honey, we could always adopt". I dried up my tears and started researching adoption. I actually spent years researching before finally getting up the nerve to pursue my dream of being a mother.
I was concerned about the cost of adoption. Overseas adoptions were astronomical and domestic adoptions were half astronomical (If there is such a thing...but you get my point). I really wasn't sure what we were going to do. All I knew was I wanted to be a mother.
As I do with everything else, I put it in prayer. So one day, I ran into a former co-worker who, at the time, had just adopted two children at the same time. All I kept thinking was that she must have sold the farm.
She told me that she went through the Children's Home Society and that there was no cost for the adoption. The Home Study was also free (which can cost $1,000 to $2,000). In addition, the child's college tuition is paid for at a state college or university along with many other benefits bestowed to the parents.
Three years ago, when we went to pursue adopting our son, we had no idea of the number of children who lived in our own city that were in need of a forever family.
I had always told our case worker, that we had with our son, that we wanted a daughter. I told myself in 2012 that if I did not meet her that year I was not going to pursue it anymore. I left it in God's hands. In October of 2012 the case worker called us to let us know there was a little girl in need of a forever family. We agreed to meet her.
In November, my husband, son and I met this darling three year old. She was so shy and did not speak at all. Her eyes always looked sad. She would trip and fall quite often due to an injury she received from neglect as a baby. Her clothes were dirty and her hair was barely combed.
We had weekend visits at first and she always arrived with the same two outfits and one dirty doll. So you know I went shopping and lost my mind. I mean this is a girl you know. Even my son chooses outfits for our little princess.
In February the courts gave us full custody of our little princess. No more weekend visits. She was home for good. From November to February she had blossomed. She was no longer shy. Her eyes began to sparkle and she has never looked sad again. In fact, the day she moved in she had this look on her face as if to say "It's about time". She has never asked for the family she left. This little princess only looks forward. Her legs have strengthened and she rarely trips over herself and falls. She truly is my inspiration.
Sebastian and the princess are absolutely inseparable. They are so good for one another and they are definitely great for us.
What impresses me the most is that in a few short months our little princess has thrived beyond belief. Every child deserves to be loved and feel wanted.
I share this Mother's Day story to say that parenthood is always possible. I tell my son that he did not come from Mommy's stomach but from my heart.
I thank God every day for choosing me to be the mother of two amazing children who started off life behind the eight ball.
Next week it will be official. This little princess will be ours forever. By the way, her name is Victoria named after the city where my hubby and I met. This is truly the best Mother's Day ever.
xoxoxo
Paula
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